Life-giving or Life-depleting
Dr. Michelle Kmiec, Founder OHH
(This is a wonderful follow-up article to the article Invite Change Into Your Life To Feel Alive Again!)
Are you ready to live a more meaningful life? Then there is something vital that you need to accept, and that is you need a change!
By inviting change, you will begin to experience what is possible every day, in every moment. And if you choose to allow it, you’ll experience new and amazing things!
As you know, everything in life changes, whether or not we want it to. Nonetheless, we still have a tendency to reject change. We will even try to prevent it because there is comfort in knowing what our future will bring, whether it be in the next hour, day or even months. Much like when you re-read your favorite book or watch one of your favorite movies for the twentieth time.
But imagine this…
What if your favorite book became the only book you could ever read from this moment forward? Or what if your favorite movie or TV show would be your only source of entertainment for the rest of your life? Do you have a favorite song? I know you do. It’s my go-to song whenever I need a bit of push or a tune to brighten my day.
But how inspiring would it be if this was the only song you’d I’d ever hear from now until the end of time?
Probably not very inspiring.
Well, of course, I would not want that and I know you don’t either! Because if this were true, then how incredibly mundane and boring would your favorite book, show, and song become? And if you were forced to read, watch, or listen anyway despite your boredom, how much life do you think this would bring?
I think you’d agree – not much!
So why then do you allow other areas of your life to fall into the same mundane routine?
In this article, we are going to look at the activities that you repeatedly do on a daily basis, explore the necessity of each, and then determine whether these activities are positive life-giving ones, or if they have the power to deplete you of life.
In the article, ‘Invite Change Into Your Life To Feel Alive Again!‘, you were given images of two clocks, one representing daytime and the other night, and much like slicing a pie, on each clock you broke your average day and night into separate slices (pieces), each slice representing a major activity performed on a daily basis.
For example, going to work, going to the gym, making dinner, taking children to a karate class, etc. And then, you were asked to shade each of those slices with a color that would designate if the activity was life-giving or life-depleting.
Also, in some cases the activity was given the designation of neither life-giving or life-depleting – in other words, the activity was simply neutral.
Though this is not necessarily bad, it isn’t super good either. Obviously, there are things that we need to do daily, such as making our bed, taking out the trash, and cleaning the kitty litter. Though it would be great for even these activities to be life-giving, that isn’t realistic. They are simply neutral – they need to be done.
But consider this, how fulfilling is a life that consists of mainly all neutral activities? I think you’d agree that is it our challenges that always bring the most satisfaction and reward!
So going back to that article and after completing The Clock Activity, it then becomes easier to take the steps needed to change your life. And by inviting positive changes into your life, will serve as a major turning point in your journey towards a happier and healthier life.
(If you haven’t yet done The Clock Activity, I highly encourage you to do so. Then after about month, continue with the following activity.)
Life-giving or Life-depleting Activity
Using your daily activities from The Clock Activity add any new activities that you have incorporated into your life since then.
You will now create three lists:
List of all of the daily activities that you deem life-depleting.
List of all of the daily activities that you deem as life-giving.
List of all of the daily activities that you feel is neutral, neither life-depleting nor life-giving.
Once you have completed your lists, answer the following questions:
Are there any life-depleting daily activities on this current list that were depicted on the old clock images from The Clock Activity? If so, are you working towards making necessary changes and how?
How do you feel when you can visually see that after nearly a month (or longer) of self-exploration you still have life-depleting activities in your life? What emotions does it spark within you?
Look at the life-giving activities from The Clock Activity, what have you done to encourage more of these activities in your life?
How does being aware that everything in life is a choice affect your feelings toward your life-depleting list? Your life-giving list?
What changes in your perception can you make in order to move the activities from the neutral list to the life-giving list?
Now let’s focus in even closer to what (or who) is life-giving or life-depleting with a few more questions to ponder.
- Who in your life drains your energy and who in your life enhances your energy? Is it possible that the person who drains you the most could even be you?
- What is the underlying reason you continue to maintain toxic life- depleting relationships?
- If you did let go of an unhealthy relationship, how does your life differ now?
- Is there drama in your life? If so, what type and what is the basis of it? How do you contribute to the drama?
The bottom line is that no one is going to change your life for you, and no one can force you to remain in a life that does not allow you to excel and flourish. If you actively look for positive changes in your life, then I guarantee you the positive life changes you are seeking will find you!