Applying a Holistic Approach to Dating to Ensure a Successful Relationship
By Contributing Author, Ainsley Lawrence
At times, finding love in the modern world can feel like an impossible task. But if you incorporate holistic health into dating, you improve your chances of establishing meaningful connections — and not losing your mind in the process.
While holistic philosophies may not have all the answers, thinking holistically allows you to see the bigger picture. It is an opportunity to expand your awareness. With such a mindset, you’re far more open to partnerships that extend beyond just survival.
The ultimate goal of a holistic relationship is the creation of a two-person team. Think of it as separate individuals coming together to work as a whole. You’re able to recognize healthy, holistic partnerships via the characteristics exhibited: equality, reality, communication, synergy, love, and trust.
If you’re seeking such a relationship, it’s vital to incorporate holistic health from the get-go.
When you place importance upon holistic health during the dating phase, you’re more likely to attract a partner who understands and appreciates the same values.
You might think it’s challenging to incorporate holistic health into dating, but it’s actually easier to do than you may think.
Perhaps the most common way to get to know someone is over a shared meal. The majority of first dates take place in restaurants, after all. Even as couples progress in the dating phase, eating together remains a popular pastime.
Instead of always eating out, though, try cooking together at home. Preparing meals with one another is an opportunity to talk over the importance of whole foods as well as any other dietary beliefs.
For many people, healthy eating is a challenge. The pressure to eat at restaurants while dating can lead to the development of bad habits. To establish healthy practices as a couple, make nutrient-rich meals at home. To make it more of a stay-at-home adventure date, try new and unusual foods together, or attempt new takes on old recipes.
Encourage Positive Self-Chatter
It’s no secret relationships filled with drama and negativity are detrimental to your health. Most likely, that’s why you’re so interested in incorporating holistic health into dating in order to foster drama-free, positive relationships.
But what about the relationships you have with yourself?
In the excitement of dating, it’s easy to get caught up in a new person and lose sight of the relationship with one’s self.
To avoid this happening, make an effort to encourage the person you’re dating to practice positive self-chatter.
Doing so will serve as a reminder to you as well.
Too often, people have a tendency to self-deprecate when meeting someone new. It’s frequently done in an effort to not come off as cocky or self-centered, but this kind of negative self-chatter can have a lasting impact.
If you’re hoping to establish a holistic relationship as a couple, it’s vital for each of you to have a healthy, positive relationship with yourself. Use affirmative language and encourage the person you’re dating to silence the negative chatter.
From managing stress to shedding unwanted pounds, the benefits of regular exercise are numerous. Additionally, during exercise, the body releases its natural feel-good chemicals: endorphins. What could be better for a new relationship than a dose of warm, fuzzy feelings?
Unfortunately, many popular dating activities are sedentary: think eating at a restaurant or going to the movies. To incorporate holistic health, make an effort to get up and move.
One fun idea is heading out into nature. Go for a hike or bike ride. Practice yoga. Take up a sport such as tennis or jogging.
As with preparing healthy meals together, incorporating regular exercise into your routine as a couple is key to establishing healthy habits you both believe in and enjoy.
While it may seem romantic to stay up all night talking (at least, that’s what the movies tell you), your relationship will suffer without adequate sleep.
As we’ve said, it’s essential to establish healthy habits from the get-go while dating. Prioritizing sleep is an excellent way to incorporate holistic health.
Even though it may be tempting to watch one more episode on Netflix, it’s better for you and better for your budding relationship to practice good sleep hygiene.
To start, set regular times to go to sleep and wake up. Then, stick to your schedule.
Whether saying goodnight in person or signing off for the day via text message (blue light from screens can keep you awake), communicate your sleep schedule and don’t allow yourself to be shamed into ignoring it.
Among other things, lack of sleep can lead to increased irritability — not exactly ideal for putting your best foot forward.
Educate One Another
As you work to incorporate holistic health into dating, it’s important to do so with the understanding you are facilitating a conversation about what that means — not just giving a lecture.
Even open-minded people interested in holistic philosophies may get turned off if you come across as all-knowing.
As long as you and whoever you’re dating exchange opinions in a respectful fashion, such discourse is a chance to better get to know one another. You might even learn something!
Because holistic health extends to all areas of your life, it’s essential to incorporate it into dating. From the healthy habits you establish to the holistically-based conversations you have, applying a holistic approach to dating greatly increases our chances of finding someone who shares your values.